An Interesting Question
I have an interesting question that has been rolling around in my head for a while.
Are you an acquaintance or a real friend?
There really *is* a difference. I have a lot of friends who are acquaintances but not real friends. I think there are a lot of ways to tell which kind you are just by being truthful about the answers to a few questions. Here are a few of the questions I always ask myself to determine how good of a friend I am to someone or if I'm just an acquaintance.
1. If you call me at 2am and just want to talk, will I pick up the phone when I hear your voice on the answering machine?
2. When you call me and ask if I could pick you up at (wherever) because you need a ride and you need it at 5pm today, will I change what I'm doing to help you?
3. If you have to move will I help pack and unpack boxes, sort, haul and keep doing it until you're done?
4. Would I loan you money?
5. Would you pay me back if I did?
6. Would I CARE if you paid me back?
7. If you or someone else calls me from the hospital and tells me you are hurt/sick/scared/dying, do I immediatly come to see you?
8. If I can't see you, do I call?
9. If it's me, do I think you would visit or call?
10. If you were to die tomorrow, would I have any regrets over the way I had treated you?
11. If something significant changed in either of our lives, would our friendship be over? Would I still confide in you? Could I?
12. If you needed someone to just be there for you, would I?
I am a really empathetic person. I am so easily hurt by things and I care so much about the well being of others. A lot of times at my own expense. Would I change if I could? Would I harden my heart and think only of me and how it benefits me? No. I may be incredibly soft in the heart (not the head!) but I believe God put me here for a reason. I think being empathetic makes me good at my job. I care about the grieving people left behind. And so while sometimes I am hurt by something others wouldn't find hurtful, I'm glad I am the way I am. I hope I always have empathy. And sympathy.
I will do a lot for an acquaintance. For a real friend, there are no limits.
Are you really my friend or just someone who knows me and a little something about me? Ask yourself this about all your frienships. Dig deep. You might be surprised at some of the answers. Hopefully, you will learn something about yourself. Hopefully, you will decide which you want to be, acquaintance or friend.
Am I your friend or acquaintance? Do you know?
Are you an acquaintance or a real friend?
There really *is* a difference. I have a lot of friends who are acquaintances but not real friends. I think there are a lot of ways to tell which kind you are just by being truthful about the answers to a few questions. Here are a few of the questions I always ask myself to determine how good of a friend I am to someone or if I'm just an acquaintance.
1. If you call me at 2am and just want to talk, will I pick up the phone when I hear your voice on the answering machine?
2. When you call me and ask if I could pick you up at (wherever) because you need a ride and you need it at 5pm today, will I change what I'm doing to help you?
3. If you have to move will I help pack and unpack boxes, sort, haul and keep doing it until you're done?
4. Would I loan you money?
5. Would you pay me back if I did?
6. Would I CARE if you paid me back?
7. If you or someone else calls me from the hospital and tells me you are hurt/sick/scared/dying, do I immediatly come to see you?
8. If I can't see you, do I call?
9. If it's me, do I think you would visit or call?
10. If you were to die tomorrow, would I have any regrets over the way I had treated you?
11. If something significant changed in either of our lives, would our friendship be over? Would I still confide in you? Could I?
12. If you needed someone to just be there for you, would I?
I am a really empathetic person. I am so easily hurt by things and I care so much about the well being of others. A lot of times at my own expense. Would I change if I could? Would I harden my heart and think only of me and how it benefits me? No. I may be incredibly soft in the heart (not the head!) but I believe God put me here for a reason. I think being empathetic makes me good at my job. I care about the grieving people left behind. And so while sometimes I am hurt by something others wouldn't find hurtful, I'm glad I am the way I am. I hope I always have empathy. And sympathy.
I will do a lot for an acquaintance. For a real friend, there are no limits.
Are you really my friend or just someone who knows me and a little something about me? Ask yourself this about all your frienships. Dig deep. You might be surprised at some of the answers. Hopefully, you will learn something about yourself. Hopefully, you will decide which you want to be, acquaintance or friend.
Am I your friend or acquaintance? Do you know?
posted by The Mutant Penguin Herself @ 11:01 AM
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